Friday, November 6, 2009: Good Morning Sam! It has been a long week Sweetheart. I have not slept well at all this week. I have been relying on coffee to make me feel better only to feel bad a short time later because I know better and to think 2 pots of coffee is the way to go. I took a bike ride from the house to the beach, rode about 10-miles. I love that smell of the salty air as you get closer to the ocean. I am hopeful I will be able to ride with you soon. I think you will love it! The ride was a great way to get me thinking of other things other than the developing issues Adriana Coronel Tenorio (AKA Adriana Howitt Coronel, Ari Coronel, Ari Coronel Tenorio, Ari Howitt, Ari Howitt Coronel) has created lately.
Adriana appealed the judgment regarding my paternity being your Dad. Why? Nobody knows yet. It makes no sense because if she had anything to object to she would have done that already. All the legal professionals think all she is doing is stalling. Knowing her new attorney, Oscar Ivan Diaz Gomez has a reputation for milking his clients for all the money he can does not help. These same legal professionals predicted Adriana would do this eventually and she has unfortunately.
It has been interesting to watch how Adriana has acted out this last year. I have done a lot of studying on what kind of person would do this to their own child. It’s scary how right on the experts are. The US State Department keeps statistics on these cases and Adriana is falling right in line with what the statistics show. In fact they have been able to predict what she will do next before she actually does it and they are right almost 100% of the time! They predicted the appeal. They also predicted that she will try to use you against me to get what she wants, namely money. Sure enough she started doing that this past week prior to me coming down to see you last Friday. They also predict that when her back is against the wall, Adriana will do harm to me. It’s inevitable. Let’s hope that is not the case. I have shown extraordinary patience with this situation. More than I ever have with anything. What choice do I really have? Your affinity for elephants is very similar to my affinity for rhinos. It’s an indication on how we do things.
Anyway, I have found myself letting go of the things I have no control over rather than try and rhino my way through those things. I have surrounded myself with great people to help resolve this situation. Alicia and Carlos, whom you have met, are a big reason why things have progressed with this situation. I cannot control what Adriana does. Never could. I do have control over how I react to Adriana. I don’t let her disrespect me or talk down to me. Although I listen to her because even though she is unstable, she is still human and has thoughts and feelings about things. Those will always be important to me. So, lately Adriana has been hitting me up for money. She is trying to negotiate the child support part of the custody agreement before we are supposed to. Yet she is appealing the decision that I am your real Dad. It makes no damn sense Sam.
Adriana is not working as much lately and she cannot pay her bills as a result. She has you in all kinds of activities: school, ballet, basketball & soccer. She is trying to find time for you to take swimming lessons. That is a lot for a 3-year old. This is where I come in. I told Adriana that I will help out and then some BUT I want more time with YOU. That is not negotiable. I can be flexible with my work schedule and come spend a few days with you each week until we figure this out. I would love to play basketball and soccer with you. I am a big proponent of kids being involved in team sports. I am a great swimmer and have taught Adriana how to swim. I am a pretty good teacher and could for sure do the same for you. This is what Dad’s do.
True to form Adriana came up with many reasons why this will not work and that I should help her out unconditionally. This was after she berated me on all kinds of things. Basically she is lashing out at me because I am not giving her what she wants when she wants it. I reiterated my position that more time with you equals more help financially. That should be easy for someone who really wants their daughter to spend time with her Dad.
